L’immeuble des femmes qui ont rennoncé aux hommes / Femeile care au renuntat la barbati

Fraza din titlul romanesc ma duce cu gandul la faimoasa fraza exclamata de cate un personaj feminin in multe filme: “renunt la barbati!” Ea mereu survine in urma unei dezamagiri in legatura in dragoste.

Am intalnit aceasta carte in urma unei dezamagiri pe care cred ca am resimtit-o destul de rau pentru ca am exagerat eu in sperante. Cat despre indreptarea atentiei spre alte aspecte ale vietii mele nu este o alta metoda de a spune ca renunt la barbati. E doar o metoda de a incheia un capitol si a merge mai departe lasand in urma ceva ce acum mi se pare cumva copilaresc. Sunt de parere ca orice om, chiar daca nu are parte de ce isi doreste, trebuie sa se axeze pe ce are. Chit ca se trezeste dimineata si vede o floare frumoasa. E un motiv suficient de bun pentru a te trezi dimineata.

Titlul m-a atras datorita sentimentelor pe care le aveam, iar apoi povestea m-a tinut prizoniera deoarece rezona cu ceva din ce am simtit.

Asa cum afirma titlul original, este vorba de un imobil in care locuiesc cateva femei care au renuntat la barbati. Pe parcursul cartii, este prezentata fiecare femeie in parte si este povestit momentul care le-a determinat sa renunte. Insa printre ele este o femeie mai tanara decat celelalte, care desi nu are deloc noroc in dragoste, inca nu a renuntat. Bineinteles ca exista mici confruntari de idei asupra renuntarii la barbati, insa prin acestea, fiecare intelege ceva ce nu realizase pana atunci, astfel incat femeile nu se cearta si nu inceteaza relatia de prietenie.

Singura fiinta de sex masculin care are voie sa intre in imobil este motanul Jean-Pierre, adoptat de una dintre locatare si iubit de toate. Pana si meseriasii de care aveau locatarele nevoie din cand in cand erau femei. Nu acceptau sa cheme un electrician sau un instalator. Trebuia sa fie o femeie.

Povestea este superba si iese in evidenta prin perspectiva diferita pe care o are asupra iubirii. Vorbeste nu numai despre iubirile femeilor cu barbatii care au fost in vietile lor, ci si despre iubirea pe care o purtau pentru copiii pe care ii avusesera, parintii pe care nu ii avusesera, prietenii care le-au fost alaturi in cele mai grele momente si iubirea resimtita de fiecare pentru celelalte.

Sfarsitul este neasteptat si emotionant.

Cartea este dedicata “dragostei care va veni…” si reproduce un superb citat al scriitorului american William Arthur Ward:

“Este imposibil, spune Mandria

E riscant, spune Experienta

E fara iesire, spune Ratiunea

Sa incercam, sopteste Inima”

The Romanian-translated title takes me to the line each love-disappointed woman says in a movie: “I give up on men!”

I found this book after experiencing a disappointment that I took rather hard mostly because I made myself too many expectations. As for focusing my attention on other aspects of my life is not a way of saying that I give up, I’m simply trying to close a chapter in my life and move on over something that now seems to be so childish. I believe that every person, even if they don’t have all they want, they should enjoy what they have, so waking up in the morning and looking at a beautiful flower is a good enough reason to get up and keep going.

I was attracted by the title due to my feelings and I was captivated by the story because it resonated a little to what I felt.

Like the original title says, the story is about a block of flats where a few women who have given up on men live. Throughout the book, each one of the women is presented and the reason why she gave up is explained. Among them resides a younger woman who, despite her bad luck in romance, has not yet given up on love. Of course this sparks arguments between the women, but because through these small rows each one of them gets to see a side to the matter they’ve never seen before, their fights don’t last and their friendship never dies.

The only male being allowed inside is Jean-Pierre, a cat adopted by one of the women and loved by all. Even the plumbers, electricians and so on had to be women, so if the block needed any repairs, a woman would have had to be called.

The story is beautiful and stands out through the unique way of showing more than one side of love. It talks not only about the men the women have loved, but also their children, their parents and their friends. It also talks about the love each one of them feels for another neighbor of the block.

The ending is unexpected and emotional.

The book is dedicated “to the love that is yet to come…” and also showcases a wonderful quote by the American writer William Arthur Ward:

“It’s impossible”, said pride.

“It’s risky”, said experience.

“It’s pointless”, said reason.

“Give it a try”, whispered the heart


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